Condolences
So sorry and saddened to learn of her passing. My condolences to her family and friends. I worked with Nancy at "the grad lounge" at U of C in the late 90's. I haven't seen or spoken to her since then, but she always brightened the room when she walked in, and I have thought of her often since those days. (Sean Stanwick)
I remember working with Nancy. Always a smile on her face. Everytime you were around her you felt happiness, warmth and a sense of calm. The world has lost a beautiful spirit.
Gone too soon. I met Nancy in high school and was immediately struck by her kindness, genuineness, and joy. Reconnecting with her on social media was a delight. Lately I have been very inspired by her online voice and bravery for standing up for her beliefs, and clear love and admiration she has for Ella. Tragically we need more of Nancy these days, she will be missed. Deepest condolences to her loved ones, and thanks for sharing your beautiful tribute to her.
Although it has been well over 30 years (SPB) since I've seen or spoken to Nancy, it truly saddened me to learn of her passing. My sincerest condolences go out to her family, friends, and colleagues. Rest in peace Nancy.
Karen Williams
It was a joy to have met Nancy and to work with her. I was working in Mapping for the Calgary Fire department. I still remember the day we spent at Station 4 on a ride along with the Emergency. After spending a busy day going on calls, we both had a better understanding of our work with emergency services. Nancy was instrumental in helping us with the mapping work. I will remember her wonderful smile and personality. My condolences to Ella and Nancy’s family.
Lily Davies
Calgary Fire Department, Mappin
Retired 2011
I remember coming into City Hall one Saturday morning to work on a project that had to be ready for Monday AM. Nancy showed up with Ella in tow, and I think we may have been the only three people in the entire building. Neither Nancy nor I wanted to be there, and that was clear. Ella entertained us by sitting in every chair she could find and spinning around constantly while laughing and giggling. It made the morning fun, and Nancy was clearly proud of Ella. I remember thinking she must have been a mini version of Nancy at her age.
My wife and I adored Nancy and loved her smile and professionalism. She will be missed. Our sincere condolences to Ella as well as Nancy's friends and family.
Nancy was always a ray of sunlight wherever you met her, even in the darkest of times. Sincerest condolences to her family and all who knew her.
I met Nancy shortly after joining the City 5 years ago. She was outgoing and funny and cared deeply about her team and other colleagues. Every meeting or interaction I had with her immediately became the highlight of my week. We will miss her greatly.
My deepest condolences to Ella, Joyce, Ian and the rest of Nancy's loved ones. She was such a bright, shining light and a kind, giving person - I cannot imagine how difficult this must be for you all.
I met Nancy in April 2015, when she called to see if I had any spare election signs - I was able to drop them off at her house and we messaged each other a few times during the election campaign, and she volunteered on my campaign.
She sent me photos on election day of the "orange party" she was having at lunch, and when we met up at the victory party that evening, she gave me the scarf she was wearing - she said it wouldn't do if I didn't have anything orange to wear that night.
Our paths crossed a few more times after that, including Pride Parade and pancake breakfasts.
I'll never forget her bright smile and her kind & loving spirit.
I'm so grateful I had the chance to know her, ever so briefly.
To all of Nancy's family and friends, please accept my deepest condolences. As a colleague of Nancy's at The City of Calgary, I know she will be missed. Those of us who had the privilege of working with her will remember her and aspire to be as great a colleague and leader as she has been.
“Though my soul may set in darkness, it will rise in perfect light;
I have loved the stars too fondly to be fearful of the night.”
~ Sarah Williams 1837 – 1868 ~
onward in grace … Jake Kodak
My deepest sympathy to Nancy’s family, and most importantly, her daughter. Nancy spent much time with us in Calgary Fire, developing fire response mapping. In that regard, she helped responding units save many lives over the years, and it’s unfortunate we have lost her too soon.
Al Caron (Retired)
Calgary Fire Department
Mapping Section
1981-2011
I had the opportunities of working with Nancy on several projects. Nancy was super friendly and easy to communicate. She will be deeply missed.
I had the pleasure of working with Nancy on a regular basis as well as on the board of directors for APTEA over the years at the City of Calgary. She was great to work with because of her passion and get it done attitude. I will miss her smile and positive attitude even in the times on contentious issues. My thoughts and prayers are with her family, friends and colleagues during this most difficult time. Nancy was a bright spirit that will be missed.
The minute I first met Nancy at work, I knew I had come across an incredible person! Her bright smile and consistently positive can-do attitude were incredibly infectious, every opportunity to chat with her was a wonderful experience. She treated me as if she had known me for years and I felt very welcomed in her world. When I wasn't working on a project with her, I would always look forward to bumping into Nancy in the washroom, our chats would span many topics with a lot of giggles thrown in. We would continue into the hallway and when we were done, I would always be left wanting to talk with her more. It is memories like these that I am grateful to Nancy for allowing me to have. I send my love and support to her family, Nancy will be missed... she already is.
It has been over a decade since I worked with Nancy, yet we stayed in touch mostly through Facebook. A couple of years ago, I bumped into Nancy on Stephen Avenue and she immediately hugged me and we had a nice chat. Nancy was personable and warm. My sincere condolences to her family and many friends. Nancy will be missed.
Nancy had a way with people that was at once inspiring and disarming. She could always find a way past a contentious issue and have everyone leave on the same page. Her infectious smile always brightened the day no matter the weather. I worked with Nancy for over two decades and collaborated and conspired to create solutions and solve many problems that arise in running a city the size of Calgary. In that time we became friends, and enjoyed sharing stories over coffee from our early days on the dating scene to plans for marriage, baby advice, dealing with toddlers, tweens and teens, divorces, and wonderful new beginnings. Through it all she was a great listener, a trusted friend and dedicated coworker. Her presence will be dearly missed in our workplace, our hearts and our minds.
On behalf of the Deputy City Manager's Office at The City of Calgary, we are so deeply, truly saddened to hear of Nancy's passing.
Nancy was a bright light in our halls. Her smile brought kindness to every relationship she built across our organization. She shared her intelligence, her positivity and her "we can do this" attitude to every complex challenge she was asked to help solve. Our organization prides itself of the 4 "C's" of its employees: character, competence, collaborative, commitment. Nancy held all of these qualities and added a fifth: care.
Nancy was happy to share insights on fun events in Calgary, new recipes, and the details of a recent experience. She was immensely proud of her bright and confident daughter, Ella. Nancy helped make life better everyday - for our community, and for our work family.
We will miss all that Nancy brought of herself to our workplace for many years. Our deepest and most sincere condolences to her treasured family, and her many colleagues and friends.
I had the pleasure of working with Nancy for five years at The City. From a professional side Nancy was a mentor and an advocate. From a personal perspective she was a great friend you could confide in. Nancy was such a warm, fun loving and compassionate person. She could find something in common with everyone and reached out to them to make them a friend. She had a natural instinct to know when someone was in need and she knew just how to make your day. Nancy was so genuine, there was never a hidden agenda unless of course it was a surprise to make someone’s day. I will miss her sense of humor, her smile and our conversations. I will miss her so much and always remember her countless acts of kindness. I find comfort in knowing that she is taking care of us from up above, she is still smiling down at us while wearing her sparkly red shoes! Rest in peace my dear friend, you will be missed.
To Nancy’s family and closest friends, I wish you peace to bring you comfort, courage to face the days ahead and cherished memories to forever hold in your hearts.
Nancy had the unique gift of being able to read when her colleagues or I would need a welcoming gesture, encouragement, support or just to have some fun. My deepest sympathy to Nancy’s family and friends. Nancy, you will be missed.
To Nancy's family, friends, and colleagues,
Please accept my deepest sympathies for your loss. I know the memories of the love you shared with Nancy will last a lifetime. Nancy was my supervisor for many years. I would like to share my thoughts in a note I've written to Nancy, to offer a glimpse of what she meant to me.
Nancy,
Thank you.
You were always kind, to me, and to others. You gave me an opportunity when I needed it the most, and motivated me to be a better version of myself. You were an inspiring leader, and you made me proud to be a part of your team. I have always admired your passion, dedication, and commitment to our jobs, the department we work for, the citizens of Calgary, and The City of Calgary as a whole.
You were so much fun! I'll miss speaking with you about each others fashion choices, and your enthusiasm for all work, and after work, events. I'll never forget how you told me, that I "need to have more fun" in my first performance review. I'm still trying to do what you had asked of me. I won't give up.
I am so very thankful that you were a part of my life, as someone to look up to, and emulate in my career. You set the bar so high Nancy, and you will never be replaced.
It was an honour to have known you, and a privilege to have shared life experiences together with you Nancy.
Farewell friend,
Jordan
The Merritt's have always been like family to the Bilger's, and I am still in complete shock....and denial over this sudden loss of one of my lifelong friends. I'll always remember Nancy as the shy girl up the street.....I spent half of my Elementary and Junior High days over at the Merritt's, eating Joe Louis and Gherkins, pickles and cheese, playing with Max, Stan and Rose, hide 'n seek, blind man's bluff, and the occasional weekend trip up to Bowden to ride motor-bikes and jump on the tramp. As the years went on and I moved South, we still maintained a special friendship, and whenever we did connect, it was just like where we left off full of laughs, and childhood memories. I am truly speechless and still in disbelief that we will never share another plate of pickles and cheese. You are truly a beautiful person Nancy and fortunately for the world, you are survived by your beautiful and intelligent daughter Ella. My deepest condolences to Mommy, Ian and Ella.... Love Biggles
Nancy was a spectacular friend to us. She was the friend that you could call in the middle of winter to pick you up at the airport and take you for surgery when you were hurt on holidays! She was the friend that made an annual pilgrimage to the mall (to start the Christmas shopping) every Greycup with your wife so you could watch the game. She was the friend that hosted the backyard birthday party that we still talk about today. We will forever miss her smile, laughter and ability to create memories. Our hearts are breaking for you Ella, Joyce, Ian and everyone who adored and loved her as much as we did.
Nancy was my lifelong friend. We ave known each other since the day before kindergarten when our mum's became friends.
We spent many of our childhood years walking to and from school, giggling and laughing together. I have so many incredible memories of our friendship - from creating plays where our mums would have to pay us pennies to watch to reading books in our handmade forts; from hide-and-seek in the neighbourhood to celebrating her birthday Halloween style.
Nancy and I ran into each other whenever I was in Calgary and the most recent time was a few years ago at Duran Duran (one of our favourites) and we spent time giggling and reminiscing about our silly yet amazing childhood. We talked about our girls and how Ella and Ruby would love each other! Ella, your mum is so proud to be your mum!
Nancy's heart was filled with gold and her smile lit up the room making everything a joy!
I love you Nan and will miss you dearly
Ella, Joyce and family,
We were heartbroken to hear about your loss. Nancy was an amazing woman and mother who loved her daughter to the ends of the earth.
Nancy was a very special women. I have so many memories with her that make me sad to think of now. Nancy was so kindhearted and loving. She cared very deeply for everyone, and I'm so sad to think that she is no longer with us. My heart goes out for her family but especially Ella. I wish you all the best, and am sending all my love in this time of heartbreak. (Abby)
Mandy, Kalum and Abby
It is hard to say what is in the minds and hearts of the people who knew Nancy except that she touched us all with her spirit, love, laughter and kindness...forever in our memories Nancy...Thank You! To her family and close friends and colleagues...May peace be with you...fond memories in your mind...her love in your heart.
"It always seems so futile to try to put into words feelings that can never be adequately expressed in words" (Alan Beddoe)
My hope is to convey warm sympathy, and express the gratitude and admiration I had for Nancy as a colleague and friend.
Nancy's personal courage and ingenuity was inspiring. She took pride in helping others expand their careers. During the ten years of working together, she challenged me professionally and personally. By adding responsibility, raising expectations, and acting as a role model, she helped open opportunities. How grateful I am, that I took the time to thank her.
Nancy welcomed conversation with excited eyes and a smile. Our conversations ranged from current events, YYC food-themed weeks, to data QA/QC - Nancy was a stickler for quality and I understand why. Her passionate personality encouraged others to follow her lead, and work as a team.
Nancy worked hard without thought or expectation of reward or personal recognition. There is good reason to be thankful that such a wonderful, robust woman once lived. I knew how fortunate I was to be part of the fun Nancy sparked in our lives, I just did not expect to lose it. Please accept my sincere sympathy at this moment of grief. You are not alone in your sorrow.
Nancy was my next door neighbour. Ella and Nancy lived next to me for many years. Nancy was very kind to me and help me with my yard work. She was the gardener and was developing her beautiful yard. I will miss her very much. God bless the family at this difficult time.
Love Irene Kjelstrom
Nancy was always so kind to me. Ella and I were close friends in elementary school and I will never forget how welcoming and kind both Ella and Nancy were. Every time I ran into Nancy, whether it be when I was five or fifteen, she was so genuine and would give me the biggest smile. I'm grateful I knew her, even though I probably never told her how much I really appreciated the little things she did for me. She was such a lovely person, and so full of light.
Ella, I'm so sorry, and I hope you never doubt that I will always be here for you.
I first met Nancy in a grade 10 class when she introduced herself as a friend of my cousin’s. Our own friendship quickly formed and throughout the years evolved into a strong and loving bond. Those big, bright eyes and that flashy, white smile always greeted me with warmth and kindness. I mostly enjoyed the lunch hour walks through downtown exchanging light-hearted barbs and uncontrollable giggles. I loved her cunning wit and sly sense of humour as did everyone who knew her.
When I heard of Nancy’s sudden passing, I found no words to describe my grief so have had to borrow another’s:
Those special memories of you, will always bring a smile.
If only I could have you back, just for a while.
Then we could sit and talk again, just like we used to do.
You always meant so much to me, and always will too.
The fact that you are no longer here, will forever cause me pain.
But you will always be in my heart, until we meet again.
My very deepest condolences extend to Nancy’s family, especially Ella, Ian and Joyce who have lost this most special member.
I love you, Nana. Sleep well. XO
Having know Nancy (aka Nanner) since kindergarten, it was junior high where our pose of six was formed and our friendship began.
There are so many memories of Nancy... daily laughter when she would pull up to school in the back seat of Joyce’s car while the dogs were in the front, helping me cheat through gr 8 math, our evening bike rides through Confederation Park, and me crashing family Christmas Eve gift openings. We shared many travels together, to Vancouver via train (when we were way to young to go!), to Mexico, Bali and Greece. Then as we were older and roommates at ‘head smashed in buffalo jump’, our yee-haw its St Patrick’s day party, her perfect cup of tea, all our laughs and silly games.
Our lives got busy where birthday wishes and annual catch ups were had, but we just picked up where we left off, never missed a moment. She was a special friend, not just a beautiful one and will be dearly missed.
My deepest condolences to Joyce, Ian and to her beloved Ella.
I first met Nancy 37 years ago in the 7th grade. She is my oldest and dearest friend. The most beautiful person I have known, inside and out. Nancy got me through the most difficult times in my life, and always there for the good times as well. Anyone who knew Nancy knows she was always up for a new adventure, and we had many together! I can hear her laugh now. I was fortunate enough to have looked after beautiful Ella when she was small. Nancy's beauty lives on in her. My heart goes out to Ella, Joyce, and Ian. As my heart breaks with theirs. My luv bug you are so very loved and missed.
Nancy and I have been the best of friends for the past 25 years. We sure knew how to laugh at ourselves, loved dressing up in costumes and inventing fun games out of the most mundane moments. We were an amazing duo, a blend of Will & Grace and Jack & Karen.
We first met in university and giggled in lecture halls over silly little inside jokes. We loved dinner parties, and I especially loved her amazing cooking. We experienced many adventures togethers. Some were global, like when we got lost in the middle of the night while kayaking the BC islands. Many other adventures were here in town where we would have so many silly adventures, like blindfolding each other and trying to navigate downtown.
Nancy was a champion for human rights and always showed up to Pride ready to celebrate and embrace diversity in life. And I am proud that these are values that show up her daughter today.
We both worked at City Hall, which gave us so many opportunities to see each other over the past decade. Whenever we ran into each other in the elevator or coffee shop we would turn our mini reunion into a grande celebration, often filled with cheers and dances. And owning ‘his and her’ Mini’s, we would coordinate our arrival time at work so we could find side-by-side parking spots in the parkade. When successful, we would celebrate by sending each other fun morning selfie’s in front of our Mini’s.
Like many friendships, we drifted in and out of each other’s lives over the years, much like the tide of the ocean. Whenever we would reunite, it was as if time had never passed. While the tide has gone out, I am so fortunate to have an ocean filled with such amazing memories.
Tara and Larry
November 28, 2020
It is difficult to bring Nancy to mind without seeing her beautiful smile and hearing her contagious laugh. She had an unstoppable sense of humour, had more than enough room in her heart for everyone and was head strong in her convictions. You never had to guess which side of any issue Nancy was on and she was always up for some friendly debate. Agree or disagree, she always stood for what she believed in.
No question, Nancy was smart, funny, creative and articulate. It is clear that every great quality Nancy possessed, has been passed on to her daughter Ella.
Larry has known Nancy since they were 6 years old. They grew up in the same neighbourhood and went to school together from the start. He remembers around that age, being taken captive by Nancy and her friend Mary to be their creative subject and dressing him in their best dresses and high heels in the dress up box. Perfect foreshadowing… Nancy always had great style. I do remember her having enviously high bangs in high school. We all had so many fun times together in school and I might add we are so thankful there was no internet then!
Nancy was kind, Nancy was gracious and she was hilarious. The memory of Nancy leaves an irreplaceable spot in our hearts.
I first met Nancy 25 years ago through our dear, mutual friend, Graham, when we were all in the same program at the University of Calgary. A few years later Graham and I lived a handful of blocks away from Nancy and her friend Marnie, just off of 17th Avenue. Living so close I had the great fortune to get to know Nancy better, and looked forward to the great fun and zany times that she and Graham would “cook up.” Things were never dull when Nancy was around and she was the type of person who would make everyone feel included, lifting up all of those around her. If you were fortunate enough to be pulled along for the ride the memories made will last forever.
I moved away from Calgary 20 years ago so my personal memories of Nancy end around that time: hanging out at the trendy new martini bars of that era (the “Merc”, Ming, Pongo), as well as the good old Ship and Anchor. Attending random costume parties that the group would come up with out of the blue, as well as the different events such as Lilac Fest and Pride. Starting out our careers in the geospatial industry. And Nancy driving down the road in her old VW bug (pre-mini days).
Reading the comments of those who have gotten to know Nancy in more recent years, as well as those who’ve been friends with her and known her forever, the descriptions of her match the person that I remember: an intelligent, authentic and confident individual who was beautiful inside and out. Nancy could light up any room. I’ve posted a photo of her with that huge, warm smile that illustrates how I remember her best.
I’m so sorry that Nancy has passed and my thoughts are with her family and many friends. Ella, your mom was a really awesome lady who touched many people. The sky is sparkling a lot brighter with her up in Heaven.
Christy S
Nancy – you’ll always be our Nanny…
As Ian will always be I-arn (aka Bob#2),
an’ Mommy will always be (Grrr…)
Our story starts with one of your other Bobs, your dad (Bob#1). ‘Cause I knew nothing of the Merritt’s before accompanying ole’Bob#1 for the odd ramble up a rear lane across Northmount Dr. Then as my fine fate would have I’d end up returning, sans Bob#1. And I’d return often, quickly adopting the Merritt’s as my own.
Before Mommy and Iarn moved to the farm I'd become much more familiar with the Merritt’s upscale bungalow from the front of Cawder Drive, in all of it’s splendid glory. That huge picture window was glorious, overlooking the sliver shaped park down the street. Glorious, as well, was the 3-season patio we’d overtake for all 4-seasons.
And we were all glorious, except eventually maybe for the odd ramble back home there with Bob#2. Then we were more like triumphant!
Whether we arrived at 68 Cawder Dr to be glorious, or triumphant, we were always welcomed by the gorgeous, sophisticated and tantalizing women (double Grrr…) of the Merritt’s residence. Nanny was already a woman, a spectacular albeit young woman, when I met her. I was there to witness her charming wit mature to rival that of her regal matriarch. Have I said, Grrr… even if that, oh so loving wit, might leave a bit of a (sometimes) well-deserved sting.
Before our world turned into social media and rainbows it may have been more mono-chrome, but we still had ‘Fresh Prince of Bel Air’ to contrast ‘Family Ties’. Now, as life is more accurately captured ‘Reality style’ through today’s multi-media HD and ‘Selfie capable’ lenses, it still frequently fails to precisely depict what we grew-up viewing as ‘normal’.
This is to say, in a real world where things aren’t always Hollywood perfect, or what we perceive as ‘normal’, the Merritt’s (along with their Cawder Dr neighbors, the Bilger’s – Mike who introduced me to Iarn) were my ideal of perfect families. They’re still the Jones’ I’ll always aspire to be.
Thoughts above, of an imperfect world, also leads to one of Nanny’s most endearing qualities - her magical ability to bring people of all creeds and walks of life together. However she managed to overlook, or at least temporarily set aside whatever of the day’s issues, she did it exceedingly well. Never a wallflower, she’s one of the respected few who’s able to thoughtfully venture into controversy.
Like Princess Di, continuing her noble duties (as her royal husband crumbled) Nan would possibly too often lend generous support to all folks, perhaps some less deserving (I.E. a thoroughly corrupt local mayor - Ha! I guess I'll get the last word on this subject), but she did so without consequence of her other people ‘unfriending’ her.
I hope we’re able to keep this compassionate spirit of hers alive forever. Maybe we could compel Sir Elton to do a re-write of his ‘Candle in the Wind’ for our Nan?
Her deep red lipstick, as intensely exquisite as an impossibly immortal Red Rose, will forever remain etched in my teenage memories. And I’ll always remember those most brilliant of Bambi brown eyes framed in a modest black liner to match the simple, yet sumptuous black patent leather shoes. But what I’ll remember most of all, is her indulgent compassion tempered with the ultimate responsibilities of a being single parent in today’s world. This is what’s likely to be most sorely missed by all those she leaves behind - the uplifting compassion she offered, even in her own times of misfortune.
She’s as close to perfect as I believe one could be.
Not long before COVID we were at another of ours friend's funeral and one of my thoughts was – Wow! There’s a lot of people here I’ll hopefully (TIC) attend more of these with, if fate will have. This reinforced what a dear friend Nanny is, maybe it wouldn't be so awful as long as I'll get to visit with our Nan. Though as our absurd fate will have, she’s now gone and we aren’t able to attend her funeral, in person. It’s not going to be nearly as special (TIC) to attend to any more funerals if Nanny’s not there to grieve with…
My own profound sense of loss only gives way to the thought of the unbelievable loss of her daughter Ella, Mama Joyce, and my Bro, Iarn, must be experiencing. Words fail to express how deeply sorry I am for you.
I normally sign off with ‘A Beautiful Day’, my semi-obligatory attempt of positivity. This time I say (only cause I couldn't compel Sir Elton) –
Goodbye Alberta’s Wild Rose,
may you ever grow in our hearts,
Your footsteps on several continents
you are but the grace of us all compiled,
A tender lovingness only matched,
by memories of your gorgeous smile…
And it seems to me you lived your whole life,
for others to live well on our cold, rolling hills
Your candle’s burned out long before,
your spirit ever will...
<3 Rob (Bob#3) Layton
I first met Nancy 15 years ago and as soon as she found out through a coworker that I was a fan of the show Six Feet Under, that’s it, it we had a bond. Over the years she became someone I could rely on even though she was not always someone I worked with. Nancy always had time to talk about life, music, movies....and anything we could find that would make us both laugh. Nancy and I shared so many great laughs between ourselves for years and that is what I remember most. I took comfort in knowing that Nancy was a presence in our workplace and that she would always be someone I could share a laugh with and trust. She loved talking about the incredible artistic projects that her and Ella for up to and these conversations inspired me as a parent. I always enjoyed the way she talked about her relationship with Ella, it was just beautiful and full of warmth and love. I miss Nancy so much. She was always someone who had time to connect and include people.
Nancy was such a positive spirit in our work family. She always walked into the room with a smile and found all the positives in situations. She was always up for a good joke, funny story and belly laugh. Yet she was the most professional and thoughtful teammate that you could ask for. She was a hugger, and always had words of encouragement for those around her. She was a proud mom, and her usual Monday stories involved something amazing that Ella created or did on the weekend. It makes me proud to be able to call her a great colleague and friend. She leaves a gaping hole in our hearts and my sincerest condolences to Joyce, Ella and Ian.
I will never forget Nancy's adventurous and kind spirit, even at work this shone through brightly. She was passionate at work and cared deeply for the entire GBS team. In 2013 we met up in Kimberley for some downhill skiing and we got to meet and ski with her and Ella, since that trip we both shared in a common love for the wonderful community of Kimberley, BC. This summer we happened to be there at the same time, although we didn't meet up - we swapped suggestions and stories of where to visit next - I know she had a wonderful time. I'm sure every time I visit, it will remind me of her. she will be dearly missed.
We met Nancy, Ella and Joyce when our kids started kindergarten together. Nancy was a light. Through the years we would continue to connect through school and our kids, and I enjoyed every opportunity to catch up. She was so warm and kind, thoughtful and generous with her time with kids, and always ready with a laugh. All four of us got to know Nancy to different degrees, and we all liked her so much.
We lost a much-loved family member five years ago unexpectedly, a mom about the same age. And although every life and loss is different, we have a sense of the shock and pain you must be feeling, Ella and Joyce. It is a horrible loss and so very, very sad.
I'm sorry that COVID is depriving you of the experience you would otherwise have: a proper celebration of Nancy's life, a room filled with people who loved her, people who admired and appreciated her, and people who were just grateful she passed through their life.
Know that many people care for you and want to help you, and that every mom who knows you, Ella, wants to wrap you in a big, warm hug.
Take care of yourselves and each other.
Melissa, Scott, Sophie and Ian
I feel so fortunate to have had Nancy in my life for the last ten years. She hired me to work on her team, but she wasn’t just my boss – she was my friend. From the beginning I knew I could trust her, I knew she always had my back, and I could tell she would always be there for me no matter what. It started with the laughing fits we shared during my job interview, and developed into a friendship I’ll remember forever.
I would often turn to Nancy for advice when I experienced a personal loss in my life – because she always knew exactly what to say to make me feel OK again. She would ask me “what did you love most about them, tell me about the best memories you shared, and what the best thing they taught you about life”.
I loved that Nancy was always beaming. She would float by my desk almost every day, either to put on a fashion show of her favorite new outfit, ask if I liked her freshly polished nails, or to drag me to go buy a pair of shoes that I would just have to see to believe. I loved that Nancy was always checking in on me, like clockwork many evenings, her name flashing up on my phone to see if I had a nice day, or tell me funny story from the day. I always knew Nancy was looking out for me – and if I needed her, she would be there.
My best memories of Nancy, are of those when she was so enthusiastic and excited, that she could barely contain it. Whether it was a concert, a parade, or a protest she had heard about, I was going with her, and we were going in a costume – and we might even get Unicorn frappacinnos from Starbucks on the way. Everywhere we went, she met new people, made new friends, and always had the time of her life.
Losing Nancy is really hard, but I know she would say I need to focus on the things that I’ve learned from her that will forever be a part of my life. Nancy was a strong leader, and taught me how important it is to lift others up so that they can succeed. Nancy was always advocating for others, teaching me how important it is to bring positivity and empathy to every conversation. Nancy loved life, and taught me that it is actually possible to live everyday to the fullest – because she seemed to have that figured out.
Thank you Nancy for all of the joy and happiness you have brought to my life. You have always put the needs of others first, and your spirit has touched so many people. You’ve always been the loudest cheerleader in the room, and now we will always be celebrating you.
My condolences to Nancy's family and friends. I knew Nancy from work, and remember her as always friendly, with a quirky sense of humor, and she always had a kind word. We will miss her dearly.
Our beautiful friend... Nancy’s circle was wide, she touched everyone’s heart. Her light will continue to shine bright. So many memories, the laughter will never be forgotten.
Ella, your Mom was simply amazing, beautiful inside & out.
Suzanne Scarrow xxx
Nancy's impression on my life will forever remain indelible. Her beautiful eyes and charming smile. Her quick wit and deep intelligence. Her laugh! It was all infectious! I will miss it.
I am grateful for many cherished memories. Thank you Nancy.
To Joyce, Ella and Ian, as well as Nancy's many many friends around the world - I grieve with you and offer my sincerest condolences.
Smell the flowers, they don't bloom everyday.
with love,
René
My condolences to family and friends of Nancy. I will always remember Nancy by how she could instantly brighten my day with her beaming smile and positive conversations. You will be missed Nancy.
I haven't spoken with Nancy in more than 25 years, but when I heard the news of her passing I just started to cry. We both worked in the same restaurant for a while, and a group of us became good friends, spending a lot of time together. I've lost count of the times we would end up back at Nancy's place for a few laughs. I remember how one day she left a note cunningly hidden in my staff meal letting me know about one of these meet-ups. Too cunningly hidden, as it happens; I ate it. I remember seeing her later that day, and her asking about the note. And then the two of us laughing over and over again when we realized what had happened. I left the country not long after this, and that was that. But this incredibly sad news instantly brings back so many memories, like the memory of the note. Such a small thing, but I remember it as if happened just last week, and it breaks my heart to think that this beautiful, vivacious, kind, strong and supremely cool girl has gone. I'm so sorry you are gone, Nancy. You deserved more. My sympathy and condolences to her family, and to her friends.
Love and memories,
Mattie Overall
I had the good fortune to be Nancy’s upstairs neighbor at a house on 13th Ave SW about 23 or so years ago. I have always fondly remembered the fun times we shared, whether it was downstairs in her home, up at ours or in the backyard with her dog Gus. Nancy was so warm, welcoming and caring...I can’t even count how many times she offered to feed me dinner! Sending sincerest condolences to Nancy’s loved ones. She was a bright beautiful light that will continue to shine in all of our lives.
I will miss Nancy. She was always quite the character at work and especially away from work. She was never afraid to voice her opinion. I will always fondly remember when we met with her at the Women's March in 2017 and she let the counter-protesters know what she thought of them. I will miss our conversations and her kindness.
My son Elliott became friends with Ella in elementary school so that's how I met Nancy. Mostly our chats were limited to organizing play times and activities for our kids. Nancy was always so friendly and willing to help out with a ride or whatever was required for a birthday party or day at the beach. She encouraged Elliott to join synchronized swimming, something Ella excelled at. Nancy kept me informed about events like Comicon and Otafest and made sure those opportunities were available not only to Ella but Ella's friends as well. Elliott has many fond memories of Nancy driving them difference places and goofing around in the back of the car. I'll remember Nancy for her beautiful smile, elegant style, and her warmth and kindness.
For those of you who knew Nancy, I know that you would think of her as dearly as I do. She was unique, adventurous, confident, creative and smart and always had a smile and a laugh to share. She was my “partner in crime” and by “crime” I mean getting up to over-the-top craziness in our 20’s. I remember crazy times floating down the Elbow with the gang, camping in Salmon Arm, walking the red carpet at the Eddies, the Calgary Stampede, Pride, Martini-bar hopping, and so many more quiet times as well. As we both grew up, got married, had families our relationship changed as relationships often do. I moved to Canmore and naturally, we didn’t see each other as frequently but when we did it was like there were no gaps in time and we would pick right up from where we left off. Our adventures together mellowed (thank God!) and Brian, Maya and I shared many winter vacations to Mexico with Nancy and Ella through the years and in fact we were just recently talking about another bigger and better trip once COVID allowed.
Ironically, I don’t have a lot of photos of Nancy and I together as selfies weren’t a thing and as a friend said, sometimes it’s because you’re too busy having a good time that you forget to ask someone to take photos of the two of you. I do have one photo of Nan that doesn’t look like much but says a lot about my friend (I have uploaded it). In 2015 when my husband had a stroke I was overwhelmed by so many “unknowns”. Brian was in the hospital with a very uncertain future at the time and I didn’t want to leave his side so I stayed at the hospital and slept at the foot of his bed until I thought he or the doctors wouldn’t need me anymore while my daughter Maya was at my parent’s house wondering what happened to her parents. The second that Nancy heard that Brian had a stroke, she came straight to the hospital. This photo was taken about 4-5 days (?) after Brian had his stroke. She scooped Maya up from my parents for the day so that Maya could get away and play with Ella and then pulled me out of the hospital to get a breath of fresh air and a bite of real food to eat. The picture of Nancy in a rust poncho with her arms outstretched is when she came back to our table after ordering us some food. What you don’t see on the other side of this photo is a completely destroyed woman (me), but what you do see is Nancy, my friend, there at the worst time of my life with arms outstretched. This is the kind of friend she was.
My heart is overwhelmingly grateful for the precious time I spent with her this summer paddling around in her new kayak and me on my paddleboard both enjoying our beautiful surroundings while never being at loss for words. I am also deeply grateful for our vacation this summer in Kimberly which would end up being our last. We paddled every day and discovered new ponds and beaches, Nancy jumped off a cliff with some locals (of course), we paddled a hidden pond and found turtles that would sun themselves on rocks and logs, we went horseback riding while at night we played crazy board games with the girls and laughed and laughed and laughed. Our trip may not have been as grand of a trip as our Mexico trips had been but ironically it was just as great as it was time spent with good friends. Ella was with her friend Marina, Maya had her buddy Lauren with her and I had my friend Nan and in my eyes that’s as good as it gets.
I love you Nan and miss you.
Love Natalie.
Nancy was a wonderful person and I will greatly miss my friend and talking about everything going on in our lives. So many people sharing so many fond memories of her. My deepest sympathies to her family and friends.
I was fortunate to cross paths with Nancy a few times, most recently she volunteered to present to a large group at work and I am grateful I got to learn more about her fascinating field. She was obviously very dedicated and proud of the work she did. She always had a wonderful smile and warm demeanour which will be so greatly missed. My sincerest sympathies for her family and close friends as you navigate your journey with grieving your loss.
Nancy's family and friends - I had the privilege of working with Nancy at The City of Calgary. Every time I saw her she greeted me with her megawatt smile. I regret not getting to know her better on a personal level. Even in our interactions in a work setting, one could tell she was a very special person. I am sure there are many of her colleagues and coworkers who are shocked and saddened by her loss. Please know there are many others thinking of you at this tragic time.
Nancy was an amazing woman; I had the privilege of getting to know her over the summer (as we discovered we had a common friend). She was always smiling and her passion for life shone through. I enjoyed our chats. She always had a kind word to say to you and she always made you feel good about yourself. Although I didn’t get the pleasure of meeting her daughter personally, I felt like I knew her through her mother. She was a very proud mother and talked about her daughter with such praise. She will be missed dearly. My thoughts and prayers are with her family and close friends at this difficult time.
Oh what a sunrise it's going to be. Death will loose its sting and the grave its victory. Nancy, you will forever be in my heart.
So blessed I got to meet her and experience a wonderful road trip with her last year. Nancy truely was a ray of light. Xxx
To all of Nancy's family and friends,
God obviously needed a very special Angel up in Heaven and that is why he chose Nancy. She always brought joy and laughter into any room she entered. I worked with Nancy for many years and she will be dearly missed for her passion, thoroughness and dedication to her career. Rest in peace my friend.
Joanne van Tongeren
Nancy always brought smiles and laughter to the dry meetings we attended - she will be missed very much by her co-workers. My deepest condolences to her families. "And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no more pain, for the former things have passed away.” (Revelation 21:4 NKJ)
Joyce, Ella and family,
We are very sorry to hear about the passing of Nancy. Our thoughts are with you all at this very difficult time
Karyn Leversuch, Bruce, Nate and Christopher
Nancy was ray of shinning light! Every person she touch she gave positive, sincere, passionate warmth. I will always cherish the time we spent together! Ella, she loved you so much, she always talked about you. We will all miss her.
Nancy was a caring, sincere, and fun person that everyone always looked forward to being around. She brought out the best in everyone. Ella, she always talked about how proud she was of you. She was a dear friend who was taken from us all far too soon. I am saddened to learn of her passing and offer my deepest sympathies.
Nancy
I remember babysitting when you were a sweet, beautiful baby.
Although we lived in different cities and I didn't see much of you, the times we did were special.
Looking back and remembering Calgary visits 1978, 1996, the 1998 Christmas Eve dinner in the Rose Cafe, then a meal with Donald and Alex in New Year of 2003 and lastly at Dad's funeral and Celebration of Life in 2005 -when you took me back to the airport - all of those memories have a special place in my heart of your warmth, graciousness and humour.
Joyce, Ella and Ian My and Alex's condolences to you all. x
Moneca
Nancy welcome me during a stressful time on my first day at the office. All smiles all the way. She will be missed!
Maciej
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