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Condolences
A week had passed since the everlasting peace of Tita Brenda..
as we struggle to Let God, let go and move on.
I have vivid memories of days spent in your house in Talay, Dumaguete:
-playing hide and seek in your parents big built in cabinets
-swimming at your inflatable pool in your front lawn
-birthday parties and gatherings in your house in Talay
-appreciating the wooden floor, wall tiles and glass chandelier in the living area decorated by Tita Brenda
-Tita Brenda and Tito Franklin giving us "Tuskig 20-peso Bills" during Christmas
-migrating, you guys embarked on a new chapter and moved to Canada in the Year 2000
-going back in the Philippines and on the year 2019 Tita Brenda and Tito Frank excited for their Senior Citizen age
-fixing the house in Talay, Dumaguete with me as their junior OJT contractor
-going back again in 2023 but now the house in Talay, Dumaguete demolished for the road widening
-devastating, THEN THE SUDDEN NEWS OF TITA BRENDA'S HEALTH
Tita Brenda’s departure has left a void in our lives that can never be filled.
But we find solace in knowing that she is now in the loving hands of God.
Her last message conveyed a deep sense of peace, assuring that she had found comfort in the Lord and was prepared for her eternal journey.
(Happy New Year to Everyone! Let us welcome 2024 with positive energy. Remember All Good Things Come to An End. Whenever that End comes it is God’s Will. Praise the Lord, I made it to 2024,Thy will done. Amen. -Tita Brenda)
Psalm 23:4
"Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me."
As you navigate through the grieving process, remember that you are not alone. We are here for you, offering our love, support, and prayers.
ALL THE LOVE FROM ALL OF US HERE IN THE PHILIPPINES!
A letter for the Pantilag family, in memory of Brenda, wife, mother and friend...(read during the funeral service last January 28, 2024):
Fitz and our family are extending our thoughts and prayers for acceptance, comfort and strength. Indeed, I’m finding it hard to grasp the reality that Brenda is no longer with us, be around to care for her family, to care for Carter and her plants… play golf with her beloved Frank which is a sport so dear to their hearts… practice her cooking and baking abilities… the list goes on. We will certainly miss her oh-so-good garlic longganisa, I hope Fritzee was able to get her recipe.
Saying goodbye to a dear friend is heartbreaking, but it is not hard to let go when you know that she is going home to her Creator. We can smile through our tears knowing she is safely home now, a place where there is no more pain, no more struggle but only peace.
We deeply appreciate her genuine friendship, her zest for life, her own way to extend help that leaves an impact to recipients of her kindness…her caring nature. This was manifested in various many ways, but one thing I did remember, the Christmas gifts she distributed just recently - it was amazing how they were all wrapped so elegantly using the pleated way of wrapping, the thoughtful way she personally chose the gifts for each individual and the loving way she wrapped them herself, you will know that she spent precious time and exerted tremendous effort.
Brenda may have gone ahead of us, but the beautiful moments we have shared will be treasured in our hearts and in our minds. We’ve known each other for so many years but the past 2-3 years, she spent some more time with us, which we feel so honored… we will surely miss those occasional chat sessions, the dinner or chill out dates, and most significantly our travels together to create experiences… these memories we shall fondly remember.
We didn't say goodbye to each other the last time we visited … Bren, our beloved friend, no sad farewells but rest now in God's eternal peace. May the Almighty Father bless you and His divine angels be with you in your journey to the afterlife…Till we meet again in God’s holy kingdom.
Ingrid Abelgas-Lee
Tribute to Brenda Sinco Pantilag
We are gathered here today ( Jan. 28, 2024) to celebrate a life and receive inspiration. In this regard, let me greet you a pleasant and good morning!
Let me start by asking- BRENDA…. SHY?
Ingrid and I met Brenda and Frank some years back. For those who remember, and for those who cannot, it was a time when payphones were still very popular and coins were a necessity to use the phones. It was the moment when Nokia and Motorola were the popular cell phones, they were the thing then. It was also the time when “apple” was either the fruit or the computer, and not the phone. Having cellphones that could take pictures was high tech. Not a lot of phones can do that before.
Brenda…. Shy? YES, she was; when it comes to her being photographed. She was camera shy.
Brenda…Shy? Of course NOT, when it comes to the almighty. She always sought divine guidance and providence.
Brenda….Shy? NO, when it comes to zest for life and travel. She was always cheerful and she was so eager to experience the joys of travel. Ingrid and I were privileged when we, Brenda and Frank were together in some trips. I remember that Brenda always wanted to be organized and prepared. She would pack things she thought would be needed for the trip. She wanted to be so prepared to the extent that what she packed was so well done that it could not be found afterwards. I would tease her that it was a case of “hipos wala.”
Brenda… Shy? Definitely NOT when extending help and encouragement. She was very generous in helping others. She together with Frank would do all they can to help. She was also NOT shy in providing encouragement. This is very true for those who left the Philippines and came to Canada to start a new life. Starting a new life in a strange cold country was, and still is, a challenge. Brenda would provide words to warm the weary. She did not hesitate to rally them to continue to participate in the game of life.
The rules of the game of life applies to all despite any handicap. We have no choice but participate notwithstanding any disadvantage.
When Brenda participated the game of life, she had a handicap. She had asthma. This handicap was worsened when she had a diagnosis a few years back. This did not stop her from pushing on and not giving up. Everyday was a new round of the game. There were days when she was leading by a wide margin and there were days when she was not. Yet in all those days, she played gallantly and won. She just lost in one game. However, the ultimate hard fast rule of the game is that once you lose you are out. It is not the case of 3 strikes and you are out, though we wish it were so.
We are NOT here today to dwell on that one lost game. We are here to honor Brenda in the games she won. It is appropriate now to paraphrase the words of St. Paul in the Holy Book, Brenda has fought a good fight, she has finished the race and she has kept the faith. We should take inspiration from that.
Bren, we bid you farewell and thank you for the inspiration.
Fitz Lee
Tribute to Brenda Sinco Pantilag
We are gathered here today ( Jan. 28, 2024) to celebrate a life and receive inspiration. In this regard, let me greet you a pleasant and good morning!
Let me start by asking- BRENDA…. SHY?
Ingrid and I met Brenda and Frank some years back. For those who remember, and for those who cannot, it was a time when payphones were still very popular and coins were a necessity to use the phones. It was the moment when Nokia and Motorola were the popular cell phones, they were the thing then. It was also the time when “apple” was either the fruit or the computer, and not the phone. Having cellphones that could take pictures was high tech. Not a lot of phones can do that before.
Brenda…. Shy? YES, she was; when it comes to her being photographed. She was camera shy.
Brenda…Shy? Of course NOT, when it comes to the almighty. She always sought divine guidance and providence.
Brenda….Shy? NO, when it comes to zest for life and travel. She was always cheerful and she was so eager to experience the joys of travel. Ingrid and I were privileged when we, Brenda and Frank were together in some trips. I remember that Brenda always wanted to be organized and prepared. She would pack things she thought would be needed for the trip. She wanted to be so prepared to the extent that what she packed was so well done that it could not be found afterwards. I would tease her that it was a case of “hipos wala.”
Brenda… Shy? Definitely NOT when extending help and encouragement. She was very generous in helping others. She together with Frank would do all they can to help. She was also NOT shy in providing encouragement. This is very true for those who left the Philippines and came to Canada to start a new life. Starting a new life in a strange cold country was, and still is, a challenge. Brenda would provide words to warm the weary. She did not hesitate to rally them to continue to participate in the game of life.
The rules of the game of life applies to all despite any handicap. We have no choice but participate notwithstanding any disadvantage.
When Brenda participated the game of life, she had a handicap. She had asthma. This handicap was worsened when she had a diagnosis a few years back. This did not stop her from pushing on and not giving up. Everyday was a new round of the game. There were days when she was leading by a wide margin and there were days when she was not. Yet in all those days, she played gallantly and won. She just lost in one game. However, the ultimate hard fast rule of the game is that once you lose you are out. It is not the case of 3 strikes and you are out, though we wish it were so.
We are NOT here today to dwell on that one lost game. We are here to honor Brenda in the games she won. It is appropriate now to paraphrase the words of St. Paul in the Holy Book, Brenda has fought a good fight, she has finished the race and she has kept the faith. We should take inspiration from that.
Bren, we bid you farewell and thank you for the inspiration.
Fitz Lee
Frank ,
We just heard today from father edmund at chuch about Brenda's passing.
So sorry we missed her funeral today, had no idea.
I am so honoured to have met and played a bit of golf with Brenda. She was very kind and a joy to be with.
I will pray for her soul and pray that you and your family will be okay in the days to come.
She will be missed. Such a beautiful person, inside and out.
May Brenda's soul rest in peace.
With love and prayers, Leo and Malou Casuga
Our condolences to Kuya Frank, Fritzie, and Frances (and family). We will always remember ate Brenda — her cheery personality, her warm hospitality, and her very informative stories. Thank you, ate Brenda, for the nice memories.
Condolences from the Wilson family to your family. May Tita Brenda rest in eternal paradise and shine upon all those she loves.
With caring sympathies, our prayers for the family to have the strength to carry through today, hope to bring you comfort and the warmth of memories to fill your heart with peace. Our sincere condolences…
Brenda S. Pantilag passed away on January 23, 2024 due to lung ailment in a hospital in Calgary, Canada. She was the youngest of five siblings. She was a civil engineer and had worked as such at the City Engineer's Office, Dumaguete City. Later on, she wedded and became the loving wife of Francisco Pantilag Jr., her college classmate. Their marriage got them two daughters, Frances and Fritzee. Despite her job and a reasonable well paid employment of his husband at PNOC Brenda and hubby and their children migrated to Canada. During their first few months thereat, Brenda amusingly narrated they got part time work in a bakery to preserve their savings they had from their employment in the Philippines. When they ultimately found work appropriate to their qualifications, earnings became sufficient for Brenda and Frank to frequently play golf and take vacations here in Dumaguete and even in Europe. In fact, last August she was back in Dumaguete to visit me, her eldest brother, some friends and for a reunion with college classmates. That happy vacation was however jolted with the unexpected death of my wife, her sister in law. Middle of last September and returning for home in Canada, Brenda and husband spent a week in Japan. Its then a huge and a sad surprised that her health took the better of her after her latest vacation. Suddenly, she has left her love ones. As always, life here in this world will be behind us for life eternal. In the case of Brenda, she just left ahead of us, but she will always be remembered, in time we will see you again beloved Brenda..
Johnson
Tita Brenda was one of the happiest, kindest, most generous people I knew. My heart shattered when I heard the news of her passing. She always made me feel like I was family. One lasting memory of Tita Brenda was when I went over to visit and she was baking up a storm! She sent me home with delicious ube cookies that Chris devoured and requested more! Being the lovely woman that she was, she did not even hesitate and baked more for him. Chris is not one for sweets at all, but those ube cookies are (and forever will be) his favourite cookies.
Chris and I are going to miss looking for her on the golf course with her big smile, her contagious laugh, and her cute outfits. The world was blessed to have had her in it and she will be greatly missed.
Sending all the love to Frances, Bokie, and Tito Frank during this difficult time.
Ate Brenda was not only a dear friend, but a shining light in our lives. Her kindness, warmth, and beautiful spirit touched everyone fortunate enough to know her. The memories we shared will forever be cherished, and her legacy of love, kindness, and laughter will continue to live on in our hearts. Her usual words are "baleng sadyaa kaayo!"
Frank, please know that our thoughts are with you during this challenging time. May you find strength and solace in the cherished memories you built together.
To the entire family, we share in your grief and extend our deepest sympathies. May you find comfort in the love that surrounds you and strength in the unity of family during this challenging time.
Wishing you peace, strength, and the comfort of loving memories.
With heartfelt condolences,
Yoye, Jerlie, Josh, and John Paul
Tita Brenda, you’re a person that I can talk without bashing, listens and understands. You give me inspiration and advice whenever I needed most. You are someone that I look up to. I know heaven has gained another angel. You will be missed dearly. I’m grateful and blessed to have you as my Aunt. I will cherish those moments that I was able to spend your precious time here on Earth. I’ll see you again on the other side of this world.
Love,
Ging-ging(Ate)
One of my most precious childhood memories is growing up with Tita Brenda who gave her unconditional kindness and love to Frances, Fritzee and me.
Tita, thank you for being a mother to us. You instilled in me a passionate, enduring love of a family, spiritual awareness, faith and trust, more than my greatest hopes and dreams.
Though I've never called you "mother", in my heart I hope you know that you'll always be remembered for the seeds of love you sow.
I pray that in heaven you can see how grateful I am for your kind and gentle words of love and guidance and those things that only mothers say. You have been my other mother and forever I will cherish and be grateful of.
I love you Tita Brenda!
Yours truly,
Ging Ging Gamay❤️
Sending heartfelt condolences to Frank and children. Brenda will forever be remembered by her friends while playing the annual Adamson University Alumni Association Calgary Chapter. Forever grateful for her and Frank's support. Rest in peace Brenda. The next "hole in one" will be in your name. Godspeed!
Ana & Rene Santos
Our deepest and sincere condolences & sympathies to my dear friend and colleague Frank, daughters Frances & Fritzee and the family.
We’ve known Brenda to be such a wonderful person, a symbol of a very good and loving wife, mother, a great friend & a family to us.
We will dearly miss her presence, but she will always be remembered and be in our hearts, forever.
Rest in peace in the bosom of our Lord, Brenda. We all love you!
Rest easy my good friend Brenda .You are back to our Creator and no more pain.Thanks for the friendship Brends . To the bereaved family Sir Frank Frances and family and Fritzee be strong and keep the faith. Our prayers are with you in this difficult time. God bless!
Sending our heartfelt condolences and prayers to Ninong Frank, Ate Frances and Ate Fritz and family. We wish you peace and comfort during this time.
Ninang Brenda, you will be deeply missed and remain forever in our hearts.
Sending our love and deepest condolences to the bereaved family Tito Frank,Frances and family and Fritzee. It's so hard to accept that you are gone, Tita Brenda. You gave me strength and motivated me to be strong when Mama Lyn passed away last August 2023 despite your health issues.
You spent time during Mama's last days, it's an honour to thank you for being a wonderful auntie.
We will miss you, Tita Brenda. You wil be forever in our hearts.
John and Family
Brenda will always be remembered and missed. A kind, generous and good friend. To Frank and family, my deepest sympathy and condolences.
Kind, generous, friendly, and always ready with a huge smile. Thats how we will remember Brenda. She will truly be missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with Frank and family.
To Fritzee and family, Words cannot express the depth of sorrow I feel upon hearing of Tita Brenda's passing. Her presence in this world was a beacon of light, and her loss leaves an irreplaceable void. My heart aches for you Fritz and your family during this profound time of grief. Please know that you are in my thoughts and prayers as you and your family navigate this difficult journey of loss.
The loss of Tita Brenda has saddened our entire family. Heaven has added an Angel. Truly, you are a citizen of heaven. It breaks my heart knowing that you're gone. Tita Brenda you're such a kind person. I remember how much you used to love me, my husband and my Mom and take care of us. I thank God, for your beautiful soul Tita, although it's a short period of time we have, Thank you for being my second Mom. You are deeply missed and will never be forgotten.
May God wrap his arms around to Fritzee and the entire family and give peace and strength. We love you all.
Love always,
Mary and Manuel
Our deepest sympathy to Frank, Fritzee, Frances and family. We are in shock to hear the sad news of the passing of Brenda. Please find comfort and peace knowing that Brenda lived life to the fullest and her legacy and memories will always be in your hearts. Thank you for opening your home to Paul wholeheartedly when he was still visiting Okotoks. May Brenda Rest In Peace!
Hugs to all
Elgin and Edna
Our deepest sympathy and prayers to Frank, Fritzie, Frances and family. The Pantilag family opened their home to me on when i got my first job at Chief Construction after migrating to Canada. Although short lived i treasured the warmth and openness that the family extended to me during my short stay with them. Rest in Peace Brenda.- Ronnie Sace and Family
Please accept our deepest condolences to Frank, Fritzie and Francis for the passing of Brenda.
Words cannot express our sadness we feel about the passing of Brenda. She will always be remembered. She was very friendly, always smiling and happy. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
From Glenn and Lorna
Reminiscing memories with Brenda as my seatmate way back when we were in 3rd year high school. Have hoped to see you in our reunions but happy to know you are in Calgary with your family. Condolences and deepest sympathy to your loved ones.
Mama bear. My second mom. You loved your family with your whole heart and I was so lucky to be a part of it. You knew how to make those around you feel so special and you always wanted me around even when I was spending months on end at your house. I will cherish the memories we have; watching you workout inspiring me to be fit, watching you cook for papa bear and laughing at all his jokes, watching movies together while waiting for Sissy or Bokie to come home, our countless family vacations I was able to go on with you and many, many more. You will be missed so dearly but you will live on in our hearts forever. The world was blessed to have you in it. I love you very much.
Love, Baby Bear
Our deepest condolences to Frank and family.
Lorna & I have so many fond memories of Brenda and Frank together. We became close friends through all our social events & travel. Our travels together took us to many different places golfing. We really enjoyed & cherish those moments of laughter together especially when we were in Moon Palace,Mexico. Brenda was our communicator to the Mexicans, as she spoke Spanish well.
Grant Brenda an eternal rest oh Lord.
Ate Bren, we are incredibly saddened to hear your passing! We never forget you on what you have done for us on the day we touched down Calgary. YOU were the first person we saw, sitting in front of the stairs, in the Calgary Airport arrival area, patiently waiting and hoping we boarded on the last flight from Vancouver, on a cold midnight of July 2010. That was our first meeting but it seemed like we were friends for a long time! You welcomed us with great service from car to food!!! Your kind gestures never stopped there… you drove us around Calgary, bought us food, brought household stuff to our apartment, and many more. All of these we owe to YOU and will remain in our hearts forever….
To Kuya Frank, Frances and Fritzie, our heartfelt condolences to each of you. We are with you in this time of your great loss. Praying that God will comfort and grant you the strength in the days ahead.
Rest in peace, Ate Bren…
From Lenie, Clare, O’neil & Caira Ocampo
Our deepest condolences to Frank, Frances, Fritzee and family. Brenda was a good friend and we shared lots of happy and fun memories.
Whenever we stayed in their home in Calgary, she always cooked breakfast for us. And she would always cook fried eggs last because she said fried eggs are best eaten when hot!
Bren, we will surely miss you but our fond memories of will forever be in our hearts!
May you rest in Eternal Peace.
Our deepest condolences to Frank and Family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this time. I still remember that time when we were new in Canada, Brenda and Frank toured us in Calgary and bought school supplies for Michelle. The kind gesture will never be forgotten. Thank you for the good memories. Brenda, may you rest in peace.
From Gian, Marlene, Michelle & Daryl
Our deepest condolence to the family. We pray that Tita Brenda rest in Eternal Peace. She was a kind and happy soul and we are forever grateful for her caring nurture and warmth that always radiate around her. We will miss you forever Tita. Thank you for always being so calm everytime we (kids back in the day!) create havoc in your house! We had nothing but good and fun memories! We love you!!!!
Brenda was amazing lady and feel privilege to known her and her bigheartedness. Our thoughts and prayers to the bereaved family.
Our deepest condolences Tito Frank, Fritzie, Frances and family. Sending love and prayers during this difficult time.
Rest in Paradise Tita, Your soul lives on in the people you touched.
From: Rey Llosa and family
Virtual hugs. Praying for god"s comport to embrace you in this time of grief and sorrow...I miss you so much te bren..
Our deepest Condolences to Frank, Fritzie, Frances and family. It’s so heartbreaking to hear the passing of our good friend, Brenda. Mommy Brends, you will always be in our hearts and thank you for being a good friend to our family. We will treasure all the memories that we had with you. We love you and miss you❤️. - Weng, Lito, Rowell and family
Condolences to Frank, children and grandchildren.
I remember Brenda as a very positive, joyous and gracious lady. She was always smiling and laughing over the jokes of her husband, Frank. They were a happy couple.
I have very pleasant memories with Brenda during meals and dinners that we shared before the pandemic hit Canada. I especially remember her pasalubong of a set of spices in bottles from one of her Mexico trips. Just a few drops were quite hot!
Praying for peace to her soul.
Such a beautiful soul..
We love you and miss you Ate Bren! ❤️❤️❤️
It is with a heavy heart learning the passing of a good friend a vibrant woman full of life, poise and grace. Yet Jenny and I ( Bing de Jesus) are jealous of her TWO hole in one! We aren’t as lucky as she is when it comes to golfing abilities.
We will miss her and many others as well.
The best neighbours and good friends of 14 years. We have been so truly blessed to live alongside you guys and enjoy many days of chatting, laughing and being there for each other. Loved our game of golf together and the fun we had. Your Mom and dad are like second parents to us and like second grandparents to our kids.
Thank you for all your love, care, concern and many treats for our kiddos Brenda. We will miss you so very much. Our hearts are broken but heaven has certainly gained an angel. Until we meet again when our good Lord comes to take us home. Love Derek, Taryn, Christian and Victoria xxx
I don't think of a single memory when I think of you Mama Bear/Tita Brenda. I think of your warmth, kindness, and enduring love for your family and friends. We technically weren't blood related, but there was never a time when I didn't feel included and cared for by you. When you first met my wife (then gf), you didn't think twice before accepting her, saying you were happy I found her. Thank you for that. We are all better off having known you and loved you, and we will continue to do just that - know you, and love you.
"You were always the brightest light in the room, and now you will be the brightest star." Love you Mama Bear.
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