Condolences
Dear Melinda, Duncan, Ethan and Emily,
Thank you for sharing Pat with our family, through visits and grand meals together at your home! We have always enjoyed Pat's company, sense of humour and her wisdom. I have also been very lucky to enjoy a couple of 'girls' lunches' with her and Melinda. It has always been special to me that she knew my parents from golfing many years ago, and this was a special connection I have always appreciated now that they are gone.
Much love and condolences for this great loss,
Laurie, Guy and family
Dear Melinda, Amanda and family, I am so deeply sorry to hear about your Mom, someone I have known practically my whole life. Some of my earliest memories are of running over to your house in Dalhousie - camping in the back yard, watching James Bond movies and swimming and skiing with your family. Your Mom was an incredible lady and I felt like she was part of my family. She had a wonderful sense of humor, a beautiful smile and an infectious laugh. She was inspiring and determined and also kindhearted and compassionate. A truly unforgettable woman! I’m so sorry for your loss!!! Thinking of you all!!!! Sending love, Colleen Grigel
Melinda, Duncan and family,
Please accept our deepest sympathies on Pat’s passing.
We will miss our impromptu driveway, oil patch and Silver Springs golf course conversations, and always valued her keen insights, wit, direct approach, and love of her family.
Our thoughts are with you as our neighbourhood has lost a warm and welcoming light.
Rod and Karen Maier
I don't know how it happens, but I have a small handful of special people who live in my heart, who pop into my thoughts often and stand well above the crowd. Mandy's mom (Pat) is one of those people. I admit it; a favourite. I learned (and admired her) through Mandy's stories of how Pat championed independence through work success and personal finance; an icon of sorts for women, as she charged through her career and raising a family. In person, her laugh and sparkling eyes were just lovely (there was grit and strong steel in there too) and I was the recipient of her kind words of support, punchy conversation and even gifts of gin, understood sadness and shared condolences when my mother passed away, shortly after Sean. I met Mandy at a critical juncture in my life and the timely extension of knowing Pat extended an energy, physical presence and kinship that I just loved to be around and hear stories about. My deepest condolences to the family; what a difficult time. Please know though that I'll be thinking about Pat for years to come and it will be with the utmost care and gratitude that I had a chance to know her.
Over the years Pat and I spent a lot of time sharing a golf cart at Silver Springs Golf Club. Pat and I did a lot of laughing and looking for our "perfect shots". Golf was just a sunny and fun day out, had to be sunny. You will be missed Pat.
My deepest condolences to your family,
-Margaret Bohonos
Pat was a cherished friend for me and my children, always opening her home and heart to us. She was always asking about my family, some of whom she had never met, in a way that only a truly caring person does.
I had some special times with Pat recently in Hawaii. Her intuition and perception was always greatly appreciated. She got straight to the point! She had a way of distilling life down to simple truths, a special gift.
Pat was very proud of her kids and grandkids, always talking about them, and was the very model of an attentive and loving grandmother.
And she had a remarkable career, making it in a mans world at a time when it must have been very hard and challenging. But she did it, in style.
And it was testament to Pat and her family that, while she suffered at the end, they were all there, together, to the very end.
Bon voyage Pat. I will drink many gins to you, with Amanda, at sunset, just as you'd want.
Sam
Pat was my mother in-law. She was also grandma to my two boys, who also loved her dearly. I have many memories of Pat, but what I remember most is Pat's ability to bring insight, clarity, and a sense of humour to almost any situation. She had this amazing ability of 'cutting to the chase' when it came to discussing sometimes delicate issues. While the rest of us attempted small talk, Pat usually dove right in and got to the real stuff - the guts of life. For the first little while, this caught me off guard, but it is something I grew to deeply respect and admire in her. She was totally unpretentious. She told you what she thought, and often times the unvarnished version. But, this was also something that we all needed at different times, even if we didn't realise it at the time. She had a way of seeing through the peripherals and focusing on what was important. When we spoke over the phone, from many miles away in New Zealand, she of course loved to talk about her grandkids. But, she also made time to ask about my life in ways that not a lot of people did. She had a curiosity about how people thought and viewed the world, and this made her open minded and also wise. In saying that, she was never the 'sage on the stage' - she was always humble and understated when it came to her own life and her own perspective. I always felt like she just wanted to make sense of the world, with all of its chaos and mystery. Even when she was grieving the loss of her son, Sean, she always tried to reach for some greater purpose, some greater wisdom. I like to think that her and Sean are catching up after all of this time apart. That gives me some solace. I'll miss her very much, probably more than I even realise now. Thank you, Pat. You're one of a kind and we won't forget you.
Pat shared two wonderful grandsons with us. Together, we had memorable birthdays for Connor and Liam and celebrated other family occasions with Pat and family. Pat was a strong, generous and caring woman who we will always fondly remember. My heart goes out to Amanda, Melinda, Duncan, John Connor and Liam. She will be missed by all.
I am so saddened to know the hardship your family is going through and I want to share my condolences and support.
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